DAVIDPEDIA - I'm no stranger to feeling stuck in life.
I have trained with some of the best coaches on the planet during my 20 years of a sporting career, and again during my competitions at the 2008 Olympic Games.
But when I wanted to start my own business, share my knowledge of motivational psychology and training with others, it was not as simple as I thought.
Starting a new business is not easy. You have to give up the comfort of a stable paycheck to immerse yourself in the unknown, an unpredictable abyss. Many things keep us from leaping - things like fear and insecurity. And one thing above all: motivation.
When I thought back to my days as an athlete, I understood what was different. I remembered what (or who) pushed me to push myself even when I didn't want to. The difference was that as an athlete, I had structured days and a coach to report to. The structure keeps us focused and a coach keeps pushing and challenging us.
Fortunately, I took this step and founded Onbotraining, an online coaching service that helps people achieve their goals. I decided to collect the lessons I learned along the way and share them with others, like you, to improve.
So here are my top 10 tips for getting everything you want in life
1. Focus on engagement, not motivation.
How determined are you to reach your goal? How important is it to you and what are you willing to sacrifice to achieve it? If you find yourself fully engaged, motivation will follow.
Here's how to focus on engagement.
2. Seek knowledge, not results.
If you focus on the excitement of discovery, improvement, exploration, and experimentation, your motivation will always be fueled. If you focus only on results, your motivation will be like the weather - it will die the minute you hit a storm. So the key is to focus on the journey, not the destination. Keep thinking about what you learn along the way and what you can improve.
Here's how to search for knowledge.
3. Make the trip fun.
It's a great game! As soon as you make it serious, there is a good chance that it will start to carry a heavy emotional weight and that you will lose perspective and get stuck again.
Here's how to make the trip fun.
4. Get rid of stagnant thoughts.
Thoughts influence feelings and feelings to determine how you see your work. You have a lot of thoughts in mind and you always have a choice of those to focus on: those that will make you emotionally stuck (fears, doubts) or those that will keep you moving (excitement, experimentation, testing) of new things, getting out of your comfort zone).
Here's how to get rid of stagnant thoughts.
5. Use your imagination.
The next step after getting rid of negative thoughts is to use your imagination. When things are going well, you are full of positive energy and when you are having difficulties, you need to be even more energetic. So rename your situation. If you repeat that I hate my job, guess what feelings these words will evoke? It’s a matter of imagination! You can always find something to learn from even the worst boss in the world at the most boring job. I have a great exercise for you: just for three days, think and say only positive things. See what's going on.
Here's how to use your imagination.
6. Stop being nice to yourself.
Motivation means action and action produces results. Sometimes your actions do not bring the desired results. So you prefer to be nice to yourself and not put yourself in a difficult situation. You wait for the perfect moment, an opportunity, while you train in stagnation and sometimes even in a depression. Go out, challenge yourself, do something you want to do even if you are afraid.
Here's how to stop being nice to yourself.
7. Get rid of distractions.
Insignificant things and distractions will always be on your way, especially the easy and usual things you prefer to do instead of focusing on new, exciting and meaningful projects. Learn to focus on what is most important. Write a list of time-wasters and hold yourself accountable for not doing them.
Here's how to get rid of distractions.
8. Don't rely on others.
You should never expect others to do it for you, not even your partner, friend or boss. They are all occupied with their own needs. No one will make you happy or reach your goals for you. Everything depends on you.
Here's how not to rely on others.
Know your three steps forward. You don't need more. Fill in your weekly calendar, noting when and what you will do. When-what-how is important to plan. Review how each day went according to what you have learned and review what you could improve.
Here's how to plan.
10. Protect yourself from burnout.
It is easy to get exhausted when you are very motivated. Observe yourself for any signs of fatigue and take the time to rest. Your body and mind rest when you schedule moments of relaxation and pleasure in your weekly calendar. Perform various tasks, continue to switch between something creative and logical, physical and calm, working alone and in a team. Change location. Meditate or breathe deeply, close your eyes, or focus on one thing for five minutes.
Here's how to protect yourself from burnout.
You lack motivation not because you are lazy or have no goal. Even the biggest stars, the richest businessmen or the most accomplished athletes sometimes get lost. What motivates them is the curiosity to know how much they can get better or faster. So above all, be curious, and this will lead you to your goals and your success.